Wednesday, January 24, 2007

Safety tips for single women

How's this for frightening statistics: In India, a woman is molested every 26 minutes. A woman is raped every 34 minutes. There's one being sexually harassed every 42 minutes, another being kidnapped every 43 minutes. One woman is killed every 93 minutes. And these are just the reported cases!

Unfortunately, ignoring personal safety and security is a big mistake most women make.
Incorporating these safety tips should help.

Safety at home

Most people actually make it easy for burglars to work, but you can reduce the chance of becoming a target by using a little extra care and thought about the security of your home, apartment and neighbourhood.

~ Get new locks or have the tumblers reset when you move into a previously occupied dwelling. A locksmith should be able to do this for you.

~ Don't hide a key outside the door, under mats, flowerpots or under rocks. If you want extra keys nearby, leave one with a trusted neighbour.

~ Make sure you have good, safe locks on all doors. Use auxiliary dead bolt locks on all exterior doors and make sure they are installed properly. Lock all doors when you go out, even if it's for just a minute!

~ Install an alarm that can detect entry or smoke.

~ Be cautious when strangers enter your home. Use a peephole or look through a window to check. If you must talk to a stranger, never open the door wide. If you have a security chain attached, only open as far as it will allow.

~ Report broken streetlights in your neighbourhood. Well-lit areas discourage burglars.

~ Do not leave your house and car keys together with attendants at public parking lots. Your house key can be quickly duplicated and your address obtained from your plate number.

~ Don't give information to strangers over the telephone. On wrong number calls, don't give the caller your number. Report continued wrong calls to the telephone company.

~ Don't give your computer password or other pertinent information to others.

~ If possible, use metal grillwork on entrance doors.

~ Report any strangers loitering in your neighbourhood or people asking vague questions about your neighbours.

~ Store ladders inside. If you can't, lock them up securely somewhere else. Suggest your neighbours follow this rule as well.

~ Use lights effectively, leave several on in different areas of the house when you go out.

~ A safe inexpensive window lock can also be made.

~ Leave a radio playing quietly when you go out to give the impression that someone is at home.

~ Vary your routine. If you follow the same routine week in and week out, a would-be burglar could watch your movements.

~ If your phone is attached to an answering machine, make sure your message does not give the impression to a caller that you are not at home. Make sure your phone does not continue to ring and ring, giving an indication that you are not at home.

~ Remove your name and address from any magazines or papers before discarding them.

~ Shred all papers that contain pertinent information about you and members of your family.

~ Single women should never place their full name in a mailbox -- your first and middle initial may be used, not 'Miss,' 'Ms' or 'Mrs'.

~ Keep few valuables in your apartment.

~ Keep your mailbox empty. If you are away, arrange with a neighbour or building manager to have all mail taken out.

~ Check references of maids, cleaning women or anyone else who may have to work inside your apartment while you are away from it.

~ A dog can often prevent a burglary. Place a 'Beware of dog' sign in your windows.
If you don't have a dog, purchase a heavy-duty dog chain, a large dog collar and dog dish. Place all three items in plain sight where a would-be burglar can see them.

In your car and parking lots

~ Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating or working and just sit working on their chequebooks or making a list, etc. Do not do this!

~ Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. Check under the car as well.

~ While driving alone, lock yourself in. Do not give lifts.

~ Better have your tank full during the day. Never even think of stopping at a gas station alone at night or on the outskirts of the city.

~ If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. You could be attacked/ pulled into the van when you are attempting to get into your cars.

~ Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest to your car, you may want to walk back and get a colleague/ guard/ policeman to walk you back out.

~ Keep a pencil and paper in your car. If you see a prowling car in your neighbourhood, take down the license number. Ask your children to be alert for suspicious vehicles.

~ Become familiar with your neighbours' cars. Any car that does not belong in your neighbourhood should be considered a possible suspect.

Better safe than sorry

~ Always take the elevator instead of the stairs. Stairwells are horrible places to be alone.

~ Do not get into an elevator if there is someone it in with whom you are not comfortable.

~ Do not stand in the corners of the elevator, be near the front by the doors, ready to get off.

~ Women are always very sympathetic. Do not help a handicapped man or someone asking for an address on a lonely street. It sounds rude, but you never know.

~ Continuous eve-teasing by locals should be notified to the police.

~ If stalked, walk to the local police station. Change direction of walking and never enter a lonely area.

~ Always keep your distance when walking past strangers on the street or in dark areas.
~ Get a cell phone. Keep it charged.

~ If you are walking alone in the dark or in a lonely area, and you find someone stalking you, scream 'fire' and not 'help'. People don't want to get involved when people yell 'help' but 'fire' draws attention because people are nosy. Then, run!

~ Offending phone calls from an ex-boyfriend should be clearly avoided. Be polite and firm. If he doesn't stop, report it to the police.

~ Avoid travelling by train after normal working hours.

At social events

~ Young women in dating situations should never leave drinks unattended. A 'date rape' drug can be easily slipped into a glass. When returning from the dance floor or restroom, get a new drink from the bartender.

~ When making plans to go out for the first time, consider meet your date at a public place. Also, let someone know whom you are meeting and where you are going.

~ While dating online, do not, under any circumstance, reveal any personally identifiable information in your profile, personal ads, or private e-mails. Use only the communication tools provided by your dating service or chat rooms.

Use your judgement here.

When you e-mail in private, you may want to consider using an anonymous e-mail account at a free site.

Take your time to establish communication and move at your own pace.

Be careful with your email signatures. They sometimes include phone numbers and addresses.

~ Remember, you are in control. No one should pressurise you into revealing anything about yourself that you want to keep private. Anyone who does is not respecting your boundaries and is probably not worth contacting any further.

While exercising outdoors

~ The most important thing you can do is stay in well-travelled residential areas. Avoid isolated areas.

~ Never wear headphones while walking or jogging outside. It not only increases the likelihood that you will not hear someone approach from behind, but doing so sends a clear message to the outside world that you are not attuned to your surroundings and hence vulnerable.

~ Always assume hostile intent from strangers and keep your distance. Remember, many attacks are preceded by one of these three questions: 'May I use your phone?', 'What time is it?' and 'Do you know how to get to...?'

Other things to do

~ The eyes are the most vulnerable part of the body. Poke the attacked there and you have possibly your only window of opportunity to escape.

~ Aim for the groin area. A hard kick or a knee jammed into your attacker's groin will temporarily leave him unable to attack you.

~ The neck is also a vulnerable spot, but have you know where to grip and you have the strength to cut off his breath.

~ The last place is the knees. Everyone's knees are vulnerable and a swift kick here will get anyone down.

~ Take a self-defence course and carry pepper spray if you wish, but don't let either give you a false sense of security. Better to avoid areas where an attack can take place.

~ Don't depend on a dog to protect you all the time. If you are single and have a dog, let it be trained professionally to defend you.

~ If someone points a gun at you and demands that you get in a car, don't! Few criminals can shoot accurately at a moving target, so you are less likely to be injured while running away.

Finally, remember: Assuming that none of this will ever happen to you is ridiculous. No one expects it, but we must be aware and prepared.

Thanks to: "Shenoy, Sheshagiri" at sheshagiri.shenoy@veco.com




After reading these 9 crucial tips, forward them to someone you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we
live in.

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest
point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM.
Toss it away from you....chances are that he is more interested in
your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse.
RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail
lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The
driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating,
working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.
DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking
garage:

A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side
floor, and in the back seat.

B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger
door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their
vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the
passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you
may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible
places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at
NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN!
The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even
then , it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, Preferably ! in a zig -zag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you
killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another Safety Point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a
crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police
because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever
you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer
has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes
thinking that someone dropped off a baby. He said they have not verified it, but
have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside
their doors when they're home alone at night.

Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.

I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life.
A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it's better to be safe than sorry.


Take care. Stay well.

How to backup your cellphone

Most of us, today, store more that just phone numbers on our cell phones. Images, Mp3s, e-mails, text messages are all stored on this device.

Ever thought you might need to do the same with your cell phone? No? Then maybe you should think what life would be like if you lost your cell phone or it got stolen.

Delhi based Seema Middya, director, Training Alternatives Pvt Ltd, says losing a cell phone is a terrible experience. "It was like losing a part of my brain because I did not have my essential phone numbers stored anywhere else," she says.

Here's how to create a backup.

i. Address book in e-mail
It's fairly simple: Once you log into your e-mail account, go to the 'Contacts' section of the menu and store the e-mail address, snail mail address and phone numbers. You can even upload a favourite picture of the person.
Gmail is a great e-mail option as you can create groups for your contacts ie: Office contacts, friends, batch mates etc. You can store about 4,000 phone numbers and addresses in a contact book.

Pros
Free of cost.
Fairly good storage capacity of up to 1GB.
Online access and mobility.

Cons
Requires regular updates once every two to three days.
e-mails always face the risk of being hacked.
ii. Electronic/ digital diary

Digital diaries can usually store about 32-256 KB of data, which is sufficient to store all your telephone numbers and contact details. You can even use this tool as an organiser and schedule appointments.

Casio, Sharp and Videocon are the popular brands in this category. A 128 KB diary from Casio is available for Rs 1,200 and can store up to Rs 3,000 phone numbers, with names and addresses.

Pros
Small in size.
Good for people who are on the move.
Can store thousands of phone numbers.
The search option makes finding information very easy.

Cons
Uses two batteries at a time and requires a lot of battery as battery life is just about 1.5 - 2 hours.
Each battery costs about Rs 60.
iii. Excel sheet

How about creating a basic Excel sheet to store the contact information of important people? This is one of the most simple and underrated methods.

"My background in risk management teaches me that simplicity is a key factor while planning for contingency. I find Excel sheets really useful," says Delhi based Avikal Dicxit, a director with Insurance Intelligence.

1. Create separate worksheets and name the sheet based on groups like: office contacts, friends, business partners, clients, etc.

2. Create special filters on each worksheet to look up important numbers. Select a row on which you want to create filters. Choose the 'Data' option from the menu list at the top. Select 'Filter' and then click on 'Auto Filter'. You can now choose selective information from a list of contacts.

3. Use the CTRL F (Press the Control & F keys together on the keyboard) to search any number or contact.

Pros
Simplicity is its biggest advantage.
Free of cost.
You can keep uploading your Excel sheets to an online Yahoo briefcase.
Each worksheet can store over 30,000 contact numbers and addresses.

Cons
A hard drive crash can lead to loss of information.
Limited mobility as it is an offline backup method.
iv. Mobile phone software

Most cell phone providers offer software such as PC synchronisation, which will enable you to transfer your cell phone contact list back to a computer and create a backup. You can read the brochure or contact the cell phone manufacturer for details regarding the additional software you will need to be able to do this.

The Nokia PC suite is one popular option you can download. It allows you to manage your contact list, music and messages and you can transfer data between your phone and PC. The PC suite works on all Bluetooth enabled models of Nokia, like the 6310.

You can even download Float's mobile agent.. It currently supports only Sony Ericsson phones. But a newer version which will be launched in the future will support Nokia, Samsung and some other brands too.

Pros
A fully loaded phonebook that can store text, video, pictures and numbers with a copy on your computer.
You can send and receive SMSes even from your PC.
Absolutely free and easily downloadable.
You can transfer all your pictures, video files and phonebook to a PC and back.

Cons
You need to be tech savvy to use these softwares but, if you follow the manual that comes along with the phone, you can easily learn the tricks.
There is always the risk of virus, because you need to download them.

Cell phone don'ts

Do not take out your SIM card from the phone and put it back again and again. It may get damaged and the phone book may get deleted.

Never operate the phone during a virus infection or it may enter and damage your SIM and you will lose your phonebook entries and whatever else you have stored on your SIM card. If this happens, you will have to get a duplicate SIM from your operator. This does not come free. Airtel, for instance, charges about Rs 245 for a duplicate SIM.

Never accept incoming connections or files unless you are expecting them

Don't Use Mobile Phone During Storms

Three doctors in a recent British Medical Journal warn of the risk of using mobile phones outdoors during stormy weather.

They describe the case of a 15 year old girl who was witnessed being struck by lightning while using her mobile phone in a large park in London during stormy weather. She was successfully resuscitated, but one year later she suffered complex physical, cognitive, and emotional problems.

If someone is struck by lightning, the high resistance of human skin results in lightning being conducted over the skin without entering the body, explain the authors. This is known as flashover and has a low death rate. Conductive materials such as liquids or metallic objects disrupt the flashover and result in internal injury with greater death rates.

To their knowledge, no similar cases have been reported in the medical literature. They found three cases reported in newspapers in China, Korea, and Malaysia, all resulting in death.

"This rare phenomenon is a public health issue, and education is necessary to highlight the risk of using mobile phones outdoors during stormy weather to prevent future fatal consequences from lightning strike injuries related to mobile phones," say the authors.

"The Australian Lightning Protection Standard recommends that metallic objects, including cordless or mobile phones, should not be used (or carried) outdoors during a thunderstorm," they add. "We could not find any advice from British telecommunication companies."

Lost your PAN Card Details?

If you can't remember your PAN number then...SMART WAY:

If you're somewhere outside and if you want to know your PAN number ....it's just a click away.

You can check it online using http://incometaxindiaefiling.gov.in/knowpan/knowpan.jsp

Diamond Buying Tips

Here are some of the points to keep in mind when buying diamonds.

Diamonds are graded four ways. The color, clarity, cut and weight.

Probably the cut is the most important. This is the way a diamond has been literally cut. People think it relates to the shape but this is not quite so. A number of different cuts are available and the princess cut, a square cut very suitable for rings and where you have a number of diamonds side by side in, say a bracelet, is one of the best cuts. When done well it enables all the light entering the diamond to exit through the top and not leak out of the sides, giving the diamond the best sparkle and brilliance..

You then have the clarity. All diamonds have imperfections called 'inclusions' and these affect the transmission of light through the diamonds. The less inclusions the better quality diamond and the more valuable it is.

Color plays an important part of grading diamonds. A colorless or transparent diamond is considered the most valuable and one can have yellow and even brown tinted diamonds which are worth much less. This is where one has to be careful as jewelers will not always tell you the color of the diamond (the tints can be very difficult to see by the inexperienced eye) and this can affect the value, and therefore the cost to the jeweler, of the diamond. This does not apply to 'fancy' diamonds or black diamonds which are in a class of their own.

Lastly there is weight. This is measured in 'carats'. A good quality one carat diamond can cost around 2000-3000 dollars. If you are offered a one carat diamond for around 500 dollars or so you can bet your bottom dollar the cut, color or clarity or all three are of poor quality and the diamond is probably of industrial quality, i.e. ok as a working diamond but not for display.
When a jeweler shows you a diamond then and expresses that it is a "Half carat", or a "Full carat!", ask them also about the color and clarity and if there is a certificate of appraisal to go with the diamond showing details about these qualities of the diamond.

If the jeweler cannot show this it is better to walk out and find a jeweler who can show you.
Keeping in mind the above will go a long way to ensuring that you actually get what you pay for.

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Are you a E-mail User?

1 Check your mails regularly .If you donot check mails for manydays then checking your even fun mails may seem like workbecause of too many mails and you may end up deleting manygood mails without checking.

2 Use a fast internet connection ---- Broadband is best .It givesspped of 256 KBPS . However for individual users speed of64 Kbps is also more than enough. Most of the Indian bigcities have ISPs that can provide fast speed at a reasonableprice. Cable ,DSL are good . Avoid dial up .If you check yourmails in a Cybercafe where ten computers are connected to asingle dial up connection then it will be no fun.

3 Choose Individual mail option to receive group mails .If youchoose digest option then all images and attachments arelost and there are merely text mails .

4 Most people have at least three Email accounts --- one eachin Yahoo ,Hotmail or Rediff or in gmail. Keep one accountfor fun mails and another for personal corrospondence.

5 Create folders for different kind of mails -- one forvideo files ,another for jokes or images. This will preventcluttering of your inbox .

6 Keep deleting older mails . It is true that email servicesnow provide much bigger mail boxes nevertheless it isstill better to delete older funnies.

7 If you have a POP connection then remember that somelink based images can only be seen online.

8 While forwarding mails to your friends , use BCC sectiononly. This will help your friends in receiving no spam and novirus mails and they will appreciate your caution.

9 Video files like WMV and MPEG are harmless . PPS,xls , Jpg etc are harmless .Donot download any otherkind of files.

10 -- Follow Netiquettes- - donot flame fellow members,avoid auto-replies , donot add anybody's address in your contact listor forwards list without permission.

Shopping & Return receipts

No matter what you're buying.... Always retain the Receipts,
warranties & Gurantees and a log of major purchases that you made
with the particular shop/store keeper.

What many companies are counting on is that you're not going to
save your gurantee information & when your television doesn't work
after 2 months, you can't return it.

Or when you purchse a set of tyres, and you get a flat for no reason
after 5000 miles and you don't have the receipt or proof of purchase,
how will you get the replacements?


When you have the receipts for something you've purchased,
it is much easier to get a return with it. When you don't have a
receipt, some stores will not honour your return, and many will
state things in their customer service areas.