1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other>hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a>woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women>who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors>around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard>and can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store>parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and>quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight< /U> at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after>you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or>other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys>you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following>behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or>stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, l ike what time>is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out>here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could>identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you>and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said>they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be>afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it>and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yell I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and>holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch>the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the>upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught>told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape>her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches.
Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it>hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a>particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is>extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him>want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is>that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing>trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and>bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,>and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings , take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd>behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!
You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the>guy really was trouble.
Thanks to: "hum tum" kool_shivi@yahoo.co.in
Understand what is rape?
When people think of rape, they might think of a stranger jumping out of a shadowy place and sexually attacking someone. But it's not only strangers who rape. In fact, about half of all people who are raped know the person who attacked them.
Most friendships, acquaintances, and dates never lead to violence, of course. But, sadly, sometimes it happens. When forced sex occurs between two people who already know each other, it is known as date rape or acquaintance rape.
Even if the two people know each other well, and even if they were intimate or had sex before, no one has the right to force a sexual act on another person against his or her will. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Branded_Indian/
Girls and women are most often raped - one in three women will be sexually assaulted in her life. Guys can also be raped, though: 7% to 10% of rape victims are male.K e e r t h e s h @ y a h o o . c o m
Even though rape involves forced sex, rape is not about sex or passion. Rape has nothing to do with love. Rape is an act of aggression and violence.
You may hear some people say that those who have been raped were somehow "asking for it" because of the clothes they wore or the way they acted. That's wrong: The person who is raped is not to blame. Rape is always the fault of the rapist. And that's also the case when two people are dating - or even in an intimate relationship. One person never owes the other person sex. If sex is forced against someone's will, that's rape.
Healthy relationships involve respect - including respect for the feelings of others. Someone who really cares about you will respect your wishes and not force or pressure you to have sex.
H ow can you protect yourself from being a victim?
Don't accept drinks from other people.
Open containers yourself.
Keep your drink with you at all times, even when you go to the bathroom.
Don't share drinks. K e e r t h e s h @ y a h o o . c o m
Don't drink from punch bowls or other large, common, open containers. They may already have drugs in them.
Don't drink anything that tastes or smells strange. Sometimes, GHB tastes salty.
Have a non-drinking friend with you to make sure nothing happens.
If you think that you have been drugged and raped: K e e r t h e s h @ y a h o o . c o m
Go to the police station or hospital right away.
Get a urine (pee) test as soon as possible. The drugs leave your system quickly. Rohypnol stays in the body for several hours, and can be detected in the urine up to 72 hours after taking it. GHB leaves the body in 12 hours.
Don't urinate before getting help. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Branded_Indian/
Don't douche, bathe, or change clothes before getting help. These things may give evidence of the rape.
You also can call a crisis center or a hotline to talk with a counselor. . Feelings of shame, guilt, fear and shock are normal. It is important to get counseling from a trusted professional.
Plan your journey or night out, arranging your journey to-and-from home.
Make sure someone knows where you are going and what time you will be home.
When going to a pub, club or party avoid going alone. Friends can watch-out for each other.
Appoint a nominated drink watcher (your non-drinking driver?). Alcohol does affect your actions and reactions, as well as your ability to be alert. Take care.
Stay aware of what is going on around you & away from situations you do not feel comfortable with.
Never accept a drink from anyone you do not completely trust.
Do not share or exchange drinks. http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Branded_Indian/
Don't leave your drink unattended, even when going to the toilet.
Drugs can be put in soft drinks, tea, coffee, hot chocolate etc., as well as alcohol. There are a number of drugs that could be used to incapacitate you; the majority will not be easily detectable in a drink.
Drinking from a bottle and keeping your thumb over the top is a good idea. Just remember that if you leave it unattended you may not be able to see if anything has been put in it.
If you return to your drink and it has been moved, looks different, appears to have been topped-up, or tastes strange; don't take a chance.
Consider very carefully whether you should leave the pub, club or party with someone you have just met.
If you begin to feel really drunk after only a drink or two, seek help from a trusted friend, or a member of the club or pub management. It is important to get to a place of safety as soon as possible.
Consider very carefully whether you should leave the pub, club or party with someone you have just met. You must be sure you have absolute trust in the person you are asking for help, no matter how long you have known them.
This can happen to men as well as women.
Thanks to: pazhaniraj.i@gmail.com
Following is a mail circulated by the Pune Police. It states about a law which we really dint knew till date.
An incident took place in Pune - a young girl was raped by a man posing as a plain clothes officer; he asked her to come to the police station when she and her male friend didn't have a driver's license to show. He sent the boy off to get his license and asked the girl to accompany him to the police station. Took her instead to an isolated area where the horrendous crime was committed.
The law which most are not aware, clearly states that· between 6 pm and 6 am, a woman has the right to REFUSE to go to the Police Station, even ifan arrest warrant has been issued against her.· It is a procedural issue that a woman can be arrested between 6 pm and 6 am, ONLY if she isarrested by a woman officer and taken to an ALL WOMEN police station.·And if she is arrested by a male officer, it has to be proven that a woman officer was on duty at the time of arrest.
Thanks to: "Santhosh Kumar" gsanthoshgupta@gmail.com
SHOCKING Story
A woman at a Gas nightclub (Mumbai) on Saturday night was taken by 5 men,
who according to hospital and police reports, gang raped her before
dumping her at Bandstand Mumbai. Unable to remember the events of the
evening, tests later confirmed the repeat rapes along with traces of
rohypnol in her blood. Rohypnol, date rape drug is an essentially a small
sterilization pill. The drug is now being used by rapists at parties to
rape AND sterilize their victims. All they have to do is drop it into the
girl's drink. The girl can't remember a thing the next morning, of all
that had taken place the night before. Rohypnol, which dissolves in
drinks just as easily, is such that the victim doesn't conceive from the
rape and the rapist needn't worry about having a paternity test
identifying him months later. The Drug's affects ARE NOT TEMPORARY - they
are PERMANENT. Any female that takes it WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO CONCEIVE.
The weasels can get this drug from anyone who is in the vet school
or any university. It's that easy, and Rohypnol is about to break out big
on campuses everywhere. Believe it or not, there are even sites on the
Internet telling people how to use it. Please forward this to everyone
you know, especially girls. Girls, be careful when you're out and don't
leave your drink unattended. (added - Buy your own drinks, ensure bottles
or cans received are unopened or sealed; don't even taste someone else's
drink) There was already been a report in Singapore of girls drink been
spike by Rohypnol. Please make the effort to forward this to everyone you
know...for guys Pls inform all your female friends and
relatives....
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